Date: 5/13/2008 12:01:00 PM
From Authorid: 21903
Shooo! I have a short temper myself. I am still trying to learn ways to control my temper! especially around my poor bf! lol. As for your example...that is EXACTLY how I am. I guess I think really long and hard before he shows up if it is really worth it to put the both of us in a bad mood because I have to 'get my point across'...sometimes I am able to convince myself to keep my mouth shut...but not always. Hopefully you get some good tips that I can use!  |
Date: 5/13/2008 12:03:00 PM
From Authorid: 10754
ABC Theory of Behavior: Antecedent (the trigger of or precursor to the behavior), the Behavior itself, and the Consequence of said behavior. Identify the triggers and your typical responses to them, then learn to forecast triggers before they occur and consciously modify your behavioral responses.  |
Date: 5/13/2008 12:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 10657
I don't have a bad temper perse, I am more of what they call a bottled emotional person. I let things build up inside of me until, I finally explode which, isn't healthy for anyone least of all myself. Figure out what it is that makes you so angry and why it makes you angry. Are you angry that he is late do to insecurities or out of fear that something has happened? So, work on those things and your anger will eventually begin to melt away!  |
Date: 5/13/2008 12:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 4887
I have a quick temper myself. I usually take a few minutes to myself and then i'm fine :)  |
Date: 5/13/2008 12:57:00 PM
From Authorid: 36901
I'm the same way. I'll freak out at my boyfriend over the stupidest things. A few minutes later I'm fine, but feel like a jerk. I don't know how to control it. I'm just lucky he understands and doesn't get mad at me over it. I always say I should be on some type of medication, but he says he'd rather us deal with it because I got worse the last time I was on meds.  |
Date: 5/13/2008 1:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 63725
I have a very long fuse unless someone harms my family members. One question I ask myself over and over again is "Will it really matter tomorrow?" I have learned that it is best not to sweat the small stuff. Good luck with this. HUGS  |
Date: 5/13/2008 1:55:00 PM
From Authorid: 23075
I have a quick temper. It doesn't take much to set me off. Even looking at me the wrong way could do it. And I have a wicked temper too. I got it honestly from my mom, but she was always able to control hers. I find that if something sets it off, you just have to leave me alone for a while, but generally it will blow and then I'm over and done with it. There was one time that I blacked out because of my temper. That is so not funny, I was told what I did and what I said I was going to do, and I try to not get that angry. I take medication to help with my anger, I will say it doesn't cure it, but it does help it.  |
Date: 5/13/2008 2:20:00 PM
From Authorid: 26303
I live with someone who has a very short fuse, and to be honest it's tiring. He has got better over the years, and I've got better handling his outbursts, but nonetheless, it's not pleasant. To be screamed at for something petty and minor is demeaning and upsetting. Having said that though, I sometimes have a short fuse with the kids. Although, I've decided not to carry on over the little things. Save the fights for the big things in life. Walk away! That's my release, walking away and doing something else. Doesn't always work, but it helps.  |
Date: 5/13/2008 3:45:00 PM
From Authorid: 28848
have you ever talked with a professional about your temper. extreme mood swings can be a sign of bipolar disorder. and no, that doesnt mean you're crazy. it simply means that your body has a chemical disfunction that can often times be treated with medicine. Meds arent the only anwser though. Stress can cause people to snap over little things too. Try to eliminate as much stress as possible, use relaxation techniques, exercise, and deep breathing can help. Plus it never hurts to have someone that will sit down with you and listen to your concerns and worries.  |
Date: 5/13/2008 4:19:00 PM
From Authorid: 49765
Meds :)  |
Date: 5/13/2008 4:46:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
...yeah...just remember how much you love him, and care about his feelings  |
Date: 5/13/2008 6:22:00 PM
From Authorid: 40145
Sounds like you are bipolar.  |
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Date: 5/13/2008 7:25:00 PM
From Authorid: 64365
Here's a good idea...before you snap at someone you love, put your hand over your mouth, and count ten reasons why you love them, and then ask yourself if hurting that persons feelings is going to make you feel better. If the answer is no, then just hug that person and say 'I love you.' |
Date: 5/13/2008 8:51:00 PM
From Authorid: 62146
Some people here have suggested you might need meds. Maybe but maybe not. I think you need to speak to a perfessional anyways though, Because when I had a short temper it turned out not to be chemical but just bottled up emotions. You will know anyways when you see a perfessional.  |
Date: 5/14/2008 6:43:00 AM
From Authorid: 62849
Before I react to things, I try to take a deep breath and think "how do I *really* feel about this?" It only works half of the time, but I think my temper is a little different from yours. When my husband is late for lunch or whatever, I get nervous and anxious to see him but I don't get angry. *shrugs*  |
Date: 5/14/2008 9:09:00 AM
From Authorid: 37101
There is no "set" methodology for curing a short fuse. It's just something you have to do and learn to control. You have to teach yourself to bite your tongue, swallow the heavy lump in your throat, and breathe slowly. It's a lot more satisfying to NEVER blow up, then it is to blow up, cause a scene or situation, and then realize you were being silly. Say what you really mean, and communicate your feelings appropriately. We tend to tune one another out if the other person is being irrational or angry. -  |
Date: 5/16/2008 5:11:00 PM
From Authorid: 21764
count to 10 or just think about how what you say will make the other person feel before you go off..that works for me.. sometimes.. lol ;)  |
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Date: 5/18/2008 8:14:00 AM
From Authorid: 64622
You need to find something that will calm you. I have a bad temoer as well but whenever I feel like I;m about to snap on someone I take out a picture of my girlfriend and everything sems to cool down. Then I calm down and talk it out. |
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